Written by Nicole Erdeljac, TFTEP Staff
Lately, I have been noticing many new traditions at weddings, while a few long-standing traditions have been thrown out the window for some couples. It can be fun to follow the pack and do what countless couples before you have done, but it’s even more fun to put your own twist on old wedding customs.
Tossing the bouquet~ toss out!
Although some single ladies will say this is one of their favorite wedding traditions, the majority of brides are no longer doing the classic bouquet toss at their reception. Not as many unattached women are as eager to participate in this event as they used to be. They could be embarrassed to be showcased in front of the rest of the guests, or simply not want to be flaunted as available. Instead, some brides are honoring the single ladies with a toast, or giving away their bouquet to a close girlfriend or family member.
Have your cake, and eat it too?
In the past, it was always tradition for couples to take home the very top tier of their wedding cake and then freeze it for one year to reopen and enjoy on their one-year wedding anniversary. These days, many cake bakers will bake you a new cake for your one-year anniversary, so that you have something fresh and delicious to enjoy, just like you did on your actual wedding day. This is typically included in the cost of your original cake, and is something you should check in your contract before throwing that first top tier out! Further, some couples are opting against cake at all. Brides and grooms have lately been offering dessert bars or smaller desserts such as cupcakes or cake pops at their receptions to put a new twist on an old tradition.
Rings and Petals
Many brides and grooms have turned away from the idea of having a flower girl or ring bearer, or both! This could be for a few different reasons. Some couples don’t have close relationships with young children and don’t just want anyone in their wedding, while others just don’t want to deal with the logistics of making sure the children know what to do and when. Both of these situations are an easy fix just by having the Best Man hold onto the rings in his suit or pants pocket until it is time for them. Let the kids be kids!
I come bearing gifts….or not
Although it used to be typical to create wedding registries at home stores or finer department stores, this trend has since dwindled. Some couples are still creating registries, but with a spin. New registry ideas include purchasing activities for the bride and groom to do on their honeymoon, donations to their favorite charity or adding wine to their collection. Moreover, many guests are just bringing congratulatory cards and monetary gifts to the reception.
Strike a pose!
Along with having formal photographers at the ceremony and reception, a fun new idea is to bring an old school photo or video booth into the mix. These booths can be a refreshing twist on the guest book. A photo booth allows guests to take funny pictures and take one strip with them and leave one for the couple with a little note. They could record words of advice, old memories and new wishes for the couple to-be to watch when they return from their honeymoon.
Is a first look bad luck?
Many people used to believe it was bad luck for the groom to see the bride before she walks down the aisle. Logistically, a first look at each other before the ceremony has come to make much more sense. This time together before the ceremony begins allows time for pictures of the two, and also it may be some of the only alone time that the couple receives on their big day.
Not so matchy-matchy
Although many brides and grooms try and pick their bridal parties in even or equal numbers, it is the new normal to not have groomsmen paired up with specific bridesmaids. We are seeing uneven numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen in bridal parties, and some are not even walking down the aisle together. Couples have the option of groomsmen and the groom meeting the rest of the bridal party on stage. This allows the ceremony to be shortened a little bit, and who are we kidding, everyone can get to the reception and celebrate sooner!
That’s a wrap
From throwing sprinkles, lighting sparklers, and blowing bubbles, most couples are doing away with the typical “rice throwing” onto the bride and groom after the ceremony ends. As the couple makes their grand exit, guests are given different items to create better photos and still wish the couple good luck and wishes in their new life together.